It's Not Just You

There's no way other women are struggling sexually like I am. Who could I even talk to about this? Isn't this a guy's issue?

For too long, Christian women have assumed they’re outliers in their sexual struggles. This assumption (along with shame) often keeps them silent, leaving them to face the battle all by themselves. But if any of this sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Whether your struggles take the form of masturbation, pornography, same sex attraction, or sexual fantasies, it’s not just you. These temptations are common not only for men in the church, but many women, too.

So how do we fight against sexual sin as women? What do we do when there’s a disconnect between what the Bible says and how we live and feel? Or, if we lead a woman struggling in this way, how do we aid her in the battle? Written from the trenches of ministering to young women, young adult minister Ashley Chesnut explores why sexual sin is “sin” in the first place, what sex really is, and how Scripture speaks into topics like masturbation, oral sex, and sex robots—even when those words aren’t found in the Bible.

God has already won the war against sin, and as you examine His Word along with Ashley, you’ll be equipped to battle against sexual sin and to aid other sisters in the fight.

No, it’s not just you. And yes, you can take steps toward victory. Right now.

1. Opening Credits
2. Introduction
3. Chapter 1: Our Sexual Brokenness
4. Chapter 2: Why We're Broken: Part 1
5. Chapter 3: Why We're Broken: Part 2
6. Chapter 4: The God Who Designed Us
7. Chapter 5: Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Heterosexual
8. Chapter 6: Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Relational
9. Chapter 7: Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Covenantal
10. Chapter 8•. Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Fruitful
11. Chapter 9: Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Selfless
12. Chapter 10: Why Sexual Sin Is Sin: Sex Is Symbolic
13. Chapter 11: How to Identify the Roots of Your Sexual Struggles
14. Chapter 12: Action Steps for Fighting Sin
15. Chapter 13: How to Go from Emotionally Unhealthy to Healthy
16. Chapter 14: How to Walk Alongside Others in the Battle
17. Chapter 15: How God Heals Our Brokenness
18. Appendix A: A Tool for Discerning If a Sexual Act Is Sinful
19. Appendix B: A Word on Sex Addiction
20. Appendix C: A Word on Sexual Abuse
21. Appendix D: A Word on Trauma
22. Closing Credits